Austinitis

Jan. 19th, 2023 10:35 am

Our move over the holidays from Pittsburgh to Austin was a long, hard road… both literally and figuratively. Here are some of the lowlights (plus a couple highlights) from the hectic, stressful, and eventful month gone by.

Final week at Hobart Street

Boxing up Hobart Street produced an unanticipated cat fortress!

Boxing up Hobart Street produced an unanticipated cat fortress!

Closing the book on the Hobart Street apartment

Closing the book on the Hobart Street apartment

Hell is real... especially in Ohio!

Hell is real... especially in Ohio!

Home at last, after a 1,450-mile road trip

Home at last, after a 1,450-mile road trip

Orny broke a couple chairs out of the moving trailer to make the wait for our movers more comfortable

Orny broke a couple chairs out of the moving trailer to make the wait for our movers more comfortable

We successfully moved our huge pile of mess from one place to another

We successfully moved our huge pile of mess from one place to another

The lease on our new Austin home began on December 15, but there was no way Inna and I could finish packing up our belongings that quickly, so we made arrangements with movers for December 28th.

The overwhelming sensation in December was stress. All the packing, selling, giving away, donating, or trashing all our belongings took time and the dust we kicked up caused my asthma to start acting up.

Then there was the weather. A week-long arctic blast brought record cold and wind chills below -25°F, and of course I’d prematurely sealed up the box containing my winter coat and boots. It was like the northeast -- where I’ve lived for my entire life -- was taking one final, vicious swipe at me for daring to move south.

The brutal cold snap laid bare some of our old apartment’s frailties. The window in our spare bedroom fell apart in my hands. The jerry-rigged kitchen sink plumbing gave way on Christmas Eve, and the landlord’s Christmas Day repairs only revealed further downstream blockages, presumably due to frozen pipes, so we were left with no water in the kitchen. All this trauma happened while Inna was out of town for four days, visiting family. It made me very glad we would be getting out of that death trap, if only Mother Nature would let us! But all this sure made it easier for us to leave Pittsburgh.

During the bitter cold, I had to post no-parking notices and claim four parallel parking spaces in front of our house that would be required for the 28-foot U-Pack trailer that we’d be loading into. Although it was a nerve-wracking wait for other people’s vehicles to move on, I was finally able to clear the space and the trailer was dropped off on time.

That night before loading day, Inna and I stuffed our cat Begemot into the car to go set up a temporary household in her mother’s condo a couple blocks away. But in the middle of a quick stop to pick up Indian food on busy Murray Ave, the car refused to start! This did nothing to assuage my anxiety about setting off on a 1,450-mile road trip in a 14 year old car!

After some worried fiddling, we managed to get the engine to turn over and drove our reduced household over to our temporary digs. But Begemot immediately hid himself in an inaccessible corner of the basement. And after we fished him out and confined him in our bedroom, he kept us awake the entire night while he suffered his own sneezing/asthma fits and freaked out over being in an unfamiliar place.

That was our segue into:

Week at Mom’s

After our first sleepless night at mom’s, the cold snap broke, and we went back to the apartment to meet four guys from “Zooming Moving” of Salem, Ohio who would load our belongings into the trailer. They seemed smart and fast, taking 2½ hours to load our 155-ish boxes and pieces of furniture into less space in the trailer than we believed possible. It was magical watching our place rapidly clear out, then seeing everything stuffed trash-compactor style into a tiny section of our trailer (FYI that was a clever bit of foreshadowing, there). When we asked them at the last minute, they even squeezed in four chairs that Inna had feared she’d have to give away.

Once the trailer was locked and the guys gone, Inna called and arranged to have U-Pack pick it up. I visited my oral surgeon for a previously-scheduled followup that was painless but carried disappointing news. Afterward I circled back to the old apartment and found the trailer had been hauled away, so I pulled down the parking signs and went across town to visit El Burro: a favorite burrito joint.

That was on Wednesday the 28th, but we didn’t plan to leave Pittsburgh until the following Tuesday, to avoid being on the road over the New Years holiday. So we had a week to close up the old apartment and hit up some favorite places, which included ice cream at Bruster’s, lunch at Pamela’s diner, and dinner from Thai and Noodle Outlet. For Inna in particular, it was the end of an era, having lived in that apartment for 12 years!

On one hand, it was a major relief that we could stop working like slaves; all the packing and planning was finally done and over with! We even had time to run a load of laundry! And we watched with delight as our stuff traveled to Ohio, then spent the holiday weekend in Arkansas, and arrived in Austin on Monday, eight days earlier than our promised delivery date!

On the other hand, we found ourselves with too much time and nothing to do, combined with the uncomfortably cold temperature of Inna’s mother’s condo. The waiting was especially hard on Inna, who -- having committed to the Austin move -- was eager to hit the road.

And I had time to reflect on how even the holidays had been out to get us this year. Halloween featured my oral surgery; Inna twisted her ankle during our Austin trip over Thanksgiving, and our old apartment’s electrical panel went bad the night we returned; a frigid Christmas featured frozen water pipes and hectic packing while Inna was away visiting her father; and we were spending New Years living out of a suitcase at Inna’s mother’s condo, while our new house and all our stuff was already waiting for us in Austin!

But time passed, the calendar ticked over to 2023, and our long-anticipated departure date finally arrived.

The Drive

Between our fatigue, a stressed-out cat, and our 14 year old car, we allocated three days for the 1,450-mile drive down to Austin. We’d made reservations at Red Roof Inns along the way, relying on their open policy toward pets. Setting out, we were tired and nervous, but happy that things had gone as well as they did.

We left Pittsburgh on Tuesday January 3th in steady rain that tapered off the further we went. The three of us all fared well, and after nine hours we pulled into our motel in Nashville. I downed a terrible “jalapeno cheez chicken” from the Mexican place next door and settled in. The room was garbage, with broken lights, thermostat, and faucet. Bigi’s stress-response asthma was really bad. Then at 5am a group of assholes came around screaming and pounding on doors, and took three body-slams attempting to bust our door in. It was very reminiscent of our horrifying experience at our Austin motel in November. What the fuck is it with you Southerners that you turn into raving murderous assholes when you go to a motel?

After a horrible night we set out on the middle leg of our journey. Inna did most of the driving on a sunny day, enjoying the 75 MPH speed limit through memorable towns like Bucksnort, Tennessee. In the middle of Arkansas we had our one worrying car malfunction when our tire pressure monitor signaled too high air pressure. But it reset after we pulled aside for a lengthy stop, and we proceeded more gingerly. Our motel in Texarkana was less run-down, but I was so wary about the guys hanging out in the parking lot that I couldn’t eat. Fortunately we didn’t have any more overnight visitors, but the cat’s asthma made for another rough night.

On the final day we got up and showered, then faced our shortest drive of the trip, all of which improved our moods. After seeing a bunch of beaver-bearing billboards advertising “Buc-ee’s” truck stop, Inna decided to stop and check one out. It’s kinda of like Pittsburgh’s Sheetz -- a local favorite convenience store -- only with the ridiculous size, decor, and attitude of a huge casino. We definitely weren’t in Kansas anymore! Then, as Austin came into welcome view, we reflected on how well both the car and cat had done on the road trip; the latter experiencing only one outburst in response to Inna’s singing along with her chosen tunes.

Arriving midafternoon on January 5th, our first stop was of course the new house. After discovering that the real estate agent’s promised lockbox was nowhere to be seen, we found the key literally under the doormat and let ourselves in, giving the place a quick once-over. I got our fiber internet router set up while Bigi began to to settle in; meanwhile, Inna made a grocery run and tried to track down the king-sized mattress that FedEx was supposed to deliver for us.

We’d reserved a hotel in Austin in case we got in late, and decided that was preferable to sleeping on the floor, so we bundled poor Bigi back into the car. Our room was fine, but we had another restless night and checked out early the next morning to spend the day at home, watching for our mattress.

Taking up residence

Watching for deliveries proved very fruitful, as we received not only our mattress, but also Inna’s laptop, which we’d dropped off at an Apple store in Pittsburgh for repairs, and a huge grocery bag full of useful stuff (including notably non-Heinz ketchup) from Inna’s former Pittsburgh/now Texas friend Traci.

After making my own grocery run, I was hanging around and saw a kid park his car at the end of our cul de sac and jog between our house and the neighbor’s. I shrugged it off as a local picking up something he’d forgotten. But ten minutes later Austin cops swarmed the area, took possession of the car, flagged me to tell them if I’d seen anything, and started a manhunt complete with search dogs! Day One in our new house, and there’s both criminals and police crawling around our property. I’m afraid Bigi was the only one of who was feeling secure in our new home. But hey, it was January 6 and a delightful 78°F!

Over the next three days we worked to slowly make the place more livable. We didn’t have anything to sit on, but procured our new mattress, bed sheets, food, trash bags, a dish rack, and started laundering things. Bigi’s asthma receded and he became more adventurous, but – in characteristic feline style – he also managed to cover himself in ashes while exploring the fireplace.

Getting our stuff home

Meanwhile, our stuff had been sitting at a shipping warehouse for a week, and we were eager to have it delivered. Because our house is on a steep hill and a narrow dead-end street, U-Pack couldn’t drop our trailer off at the house, so we had hired another moving company -- a national chain ironically named “Two Men and a Truck” -- to transfer our belongings into a smaller truck and shuttle it from U-Pack’s depot to the house.

Since the trailer had arrived early, we got the movers to bump our job up to Monday, but when we met them at the facility, they showed up in a truck that was even bigger than the trailer! And that was the smallest truck they had. No way could they move our stuff, nor would they move it into a smaller rental truck like a U-Haul. We were completely screwed. After much wrangling, their chief agreed to use a company minivan the next day to shuttle our stuff from the top of our hill down to our house. To add one more frustration to the day, I grazed a low retaining wall trying to back out of our insanely un-navigable driveway and knocked an exhaust tip from our Accord.

The next morning – January 10th – we met up with the movers and they shuttled our stuff from the U-Pack trailer into their big truck. That was when we learned the downside of the “amazing” packing job that Zooming Moving did back in Pittsburgh: lots of damaged belongings. Three pieces of wooden furniture were broken and more than half of the 22 plastic bins we’d used had been crushed. Fortunately, not much stuff had actually spilled out, so I used plastic wrap to patch together the shattered bins. But our poor stone “Boo-boo Buddha” statue – so named because he had originally come with a chipped knee – was now fully decapitated! The only good news was that our two big glass desktops had somehow arrived intact.

After loading and the 20-minute drive to our place, I showed their driver why U-Pack hadn’t dropped our trailer in front of our house: the steep, curving descent down our street, the overhanging tree branches, the sloping narrow driveway, and the limited space in our cul de sac for turning around. While using a panel van to shuttle our stuff would suck, we thought it too dangerous to try to bring a huge moving van down that hill.

But the driver was a young Black guy fresh out of high school, and he fearlessly wanted to try it. I told him it was all on them, but he actually managed it. He parked the van at a precarious tilt and chocked the wheels.

The movers still had to carry our stuff down the driveway, but they were able to unload, saving us the extra time, expense, and damage that using the minivan would have required. It wasn’t quite as magical seeing all our stuff pile up in the living room. But despite all our pointless worrying, the entire job was done in just over four hours, leaving us shoulder-deep in a fortress of cardboard boxes, broken plastic bins, and randomly-scattered furniture.

And with that, our long-anticipated move south and the month-long moving ordeal was finally complete! Even after so much stress and all the trials thrown at us, we were now in our new place in Austin, complete with all our stuff, including Inna’s car and Bigi the cat.

Our next step was to begin digging out from the mess, but we put that on hold long enough to enjoy a well-earned celebratory dinner at Inna’s favorite: Lupe’s Mexican restaurant.

Life since then…

It’s been a week and a half since our stuff arrived, and we’ve had time to address most of the mess and begin getting comfortable in our new base of operations. In the wake of our move, there’s lots of organizing, arranging, and decorating to do, but we can thankfully say that the hard work is complete and behind us.

In addition to literally “getting our house in order”, Inna and I have made our first few expeditions afield, starting to explore all that Austin has to offer. We’re really excited to start going places, seeing people, and doing things… Finally building the new life that the two of us have dreamed about for so very long.

Stay tuned for our further adventures!

Major milestones don’t come as frequently after 18 years of meditation practice, but this month provided a big one in my burgeoning role as a teacher: my first time having the honor of offering the Three Refuges and the Five Precepts.

Taking the Refuges & Precepts is the most fundamental Buddhist ceremony, and is frequently offered at meditation retreats.

Bikkhu Bodhi: Going for Refuge & Taking the Precepts

The Three Refuges are a public statement of confidence in the historical Buddha as a regular human who came to a profound and useful understanding of how the human mind works; the Dhamma, or teachings he gave based on that understanding; and the Sangha, the community of like-minded practitioners. It’s helpful for meditators to relate to these vows as more descriptive of how one feels and where they are currently at in their practice, rather than something proscriptive that someone else is imposing upon them.

How important these vows are in the context of your practice, the specific technicals details of what they mean, and the consequences of breaking them are entirely up to the individual. You can view these as a solemn public statement that you are “A Buddhist”, or you can simply consider them an unnecessary holdover from uncomfortably devotional Asian Buddhist practices, or anything in-between. The Refuges & Precepts are only as solemn as you want them to be.

The Five Precepts are voluntary ethical practices that prompt the practitioner to increase our awareness of the skillfulness of our thoughts, speech, and actions, and to reflect on their impact upon our inner wellbeing.

The Precepts in particular can be uncomfortable for meditators brought up in the Abrahamic religions, where they can come across sounding like the Ten Commandments. However, the similarity is very shallow. A practitioner can adopt all, some, or none of the Precepts. In modern formulations, each Precept not only includes refraining from a particular unskillful action, but also cultivating a corresponding beneficial one.

In addition, taking the Precepts is completely voluntary, and there’s no requirement or pressure involved. They aren’t an edict imposed by some arbitrary external authority, but something one chooses for oneself because of the value and benefit one expects to receive by working with them. And there’s no one handing out punishments for failing to keep the Precepts.

Finally, the Precepts are vague, and (I believe) intentionally so. They’re meant to urge practitioners to look inside themselves and explore the subtleties of what their heart tells them is ethical and skillful. You would think that the precept to refrain from killing living creatures would be pretty straightforward, but our modern society raises complex questions in the ethical grey area that we must all face. Does that mean you can’t kill troublesome insects? Even accidentally? Does it rule out compassionate euthanasia or assisted suicide or abortion? Does it mean we cannot eat meat? And isn’t killing plants still killing a living being? And it’s the same with all the other Precepts; they encourage us to explore our own internal values and how well our real-world actions conform with them.

So that’s what the Refuges & Precepts are. Let’s get back to me…

I first took the Refuges & Precepts in April 2006 at Cambridge Insight, two years into my practice. I’d devoted enough time and study to be confident that I’d found a good home base for exploring how to live my life in accord with my inner values. When I took the Refuges & Precepts, it was deeply meaningful for me.

Over the years I gained knowledge and experience as a practitioner, then began slowly moving into teaching. The Refuges & Precepts were always in the back of my mind, and I hoped that someday I would be able to offer the ceremony to others. But I didn’t feel confident enough to volunteer until recently, now that I’ve got five years of regular teaching under my belt.

But it was the timing that forced my hand. I’ve always felt that the Refuges & Precepts should be offered in May, on the holiday of Vesak, which Buddhists observe as the day of the Buddha’s birth, his enlightenment, and his passing. When my Monday meditation group started lining up our May teaching schedule, they granted my request to take two consecutive weeks — May 9 and 16 – to offer the ceremony.

As the date approached, I sent out an introductory email to the group. After all, this would be very different from our usual sitting and dhamma talks, so I gave people fair warning and set expectations, and sent along the translation we’d be using. It’s worth noting that following the Covid-19 pandemic, the Monday group is still meeting in an online videoconference.

I think people heeded my warning, because only six people attended the first session, about half our usual size. My goal for the evening was to go over what the Refuges & Precepts are – the information I covered above – leaving plenty of time to answer questions. The explanation seemed sufficient, as there were only a couple questions.

The second session had seven people, as we lost one of the previous week’s attendees but gained two new ones. After a quick recap for the new people, I took a couple more questions, then segued into the actual ceremony.

In short, we read the Homage to the Buddha, the Refuges, and the Precepts. For each, I encouraged people to recite them with me in English, then I chanted the Pali version (and anyone who wanted to join in was welcome to), and rang the meditation bell. Because doing this online would have otherwise been a mess, I asked everyone to keep their microphones muted. It seemed to work out fine.

I wanted to follow CIMC’s custom of following the ceremony with a shared social celebration, and I’m really glad I did, because it helped me convey my joy and how special an event it was. For some people it was their first time ever taking the Refuges & Precepts; it was the first time the Monday group had offered them; it was, of course, also my first time offering them; it was the day of Vesak, the most important Buddhist holiday, observing the Buddha’s birth, enlightenment, and passing; and the Monday group’s fifth anniversary is close at hand. And talk about auspicious: there was even a lunar eclipse! It was a wonderful opportunity to share with each other the joy of our practice together, and seeing it bearing fruit.

I probably don’t need to repeat how pleased and honored I feel at being able to offer this ceremony for the first time to a dedicated group of friends and practitioners of varying levels of experience. For me, it was a resounding success, and a huge milestone in my meditation practice and my growth as a teacher.

Now I just have to turn around and teach Dependent Origination two days later to the other group I sometimes lead!

May featured two interesting events on strangely divergent ends of the spiritual spectrum.

Buddha statue
Dancers
Riverside ritual

The first was Vesak, which is the biggest holiday in the Buddhist calendar. Traditionally, the May full moon marks the date of the Buddha’s birth, the date of his enlightenment, and the date of the passing of his physical body.

For whatever reason, the American Buddhist groups I’ve associated with have never bothered to observe this occasion. However, the active Sri Lankan expatriate group here in Pittsburgh has organized an annual observance in accordance with their customs, and invited other local groups to contribute in their own ways.

So on the 15th of May I made my way down to the community park by the Pittsburgh Children’s Museum to join about a hundred others in my first observance of Vesak. Ironically, the downtown streets had been blocked off, so I had to hop off the bus and walk an extra half mile to get there. The reason: a big procession of Christians carrying idols and chanting the Lord’s Prayer. Very strange synchronicity.

One thing I have to say about Buddhists: their celebrations really suck. The observances included chanting, recitations from the dhamma, and a dhamma talk: all very stolid, head-y stuff. The most demonstrative display was by some beautifully elegant traditional dancers, who did an excellent job, though they too were pretty sedate.

When the talking was over, there was a procession down to the banks of the Allegheny for a peace ceremony that featured releasing rose petals and water into the river, to disperse throughout the world.

For me, the observance and opportunity for reflection were nice, but almost comically staid. Still, it was heartwarming to be able to participate in such an important community event, having had been offered no such observances by my American Buddhist communities.


A week later, at Inna’s prompting, I found myself driving into the remotest parts of the Berkshire hills of Western Massachusetts to attend a huge week-long pagan festival: the Rites of Spring.

I approached Rites with a twofold purpose. On one hand, nature—wood, wind, rock, and sun, and especially the solar holidays—are an important part of my spirituality. But I’ve always preferred to honor those in silence and solitude; so Rites was something of a test to see whether there is any room in my veneration of nature for community. And failing that, my fallback plan was to simply go my own way and treat it as my own five-day woodland meditation retreat.

In the end, I wound up balancing involvement with the community with solitary reflection and a good helping of meditation. I observed a few of the big community rituals, but felt more turned off by the people than spiritually moved. Inna and I did bring our drums to one of the fire circles, and that was fun. I summed up my feelings at one point: “Nature is majestic and mysterious and magical enough without all the dumb human inventions like magical energies and mythical beings and healing crystals and blah blah crap.”

My community experience was saved by a dear old friend who had coordinated the Sandwich Retreats back at the Cambridge Insight Meditation Center. Whispering Deer is an amazingly wise and lovable woman who shares the Buddhist teachings with a different audience at Rites, albeit translating it into their vernacular. Her series of workshops meditating on the four Brahmaviharas and mindfulness of the body gave me something familiar, trusted, and interesting to work with. It was really cool seeing Whispering Deer teaching the dhamma on her own, and I was delighted that Inna chose to join me in attending.

Quiet pond

Of course, I also found time for about seven hours of solitary meditation practice, usually on a granite rock or dock on the shore of the pond. I spent those hours enjoying the opportunity to observe and integrate with the sun, woods, and lake around me, and contemplating why the veneration of nature is something I find so difficult to share with others.

But another important aspect of the trip was the opportunity to connect more deeply with my partner. The trip took Inna and I out of our daily routine, and we had a couple long, quiet conversations that brought us closer together. And that was way more valuable to me than all the silly neo-pagan hoopla.

Before I talk about my new gig, a brief word about the old one. I spent nearly three years working for a student loan marketing company called Edvisors. In 2013, a company from Las Vegas bought them out and phased out our Boston headquarters.

The title of this article is a bit of an inside joke. Edvisors had a lot of turnover, and people came to appreciate the euphemism “Transitions”, which was the usual subject line on the emails announcing another coworker’s departure.

Edvisors was pretty political and had (insert superlative adverb) outdated technology. On the other hand, I’m very proud of what my team accomplished. We built a good frontend team from scratch, set up vastly improved processes and standards, and dragged the company kicking and screaming toward 21th century technology and design practices.

Even after a six-month soft landing at Edvisors, I still took some additional time off. In the past year or two, the frontend technology field has advanced radically, most particularly in client-side Javascript frameworks like Angular and Ember. At the same time, I started hemorrhaging money thanks to repairs and medical bills from two big bike crashes, diagnosing and removing a faulty gall bladder, big vet bills after the sudden death of my pet cat, and renovations to my condo. Between rapidly changing technologies and a shrinking nest egg, it was time to get back to work in earnest.

Once I got serious about the job hunt, it took just a month. I only sent out four resumes, and got responses from three of them. I’m immensely thankful to have so many helpful local connections and a nicely loaded resume. It was also nice to get through the always-stressful tech interview; you never know what questions (or coding exercises) you’ll be asked, and despite having lots of experience, one always wonders how one’s tech chops will measure up against other candidates.

So two weeks ago I joined a company called Buildium, which was founded by a couple old coworkers from my Sapient days. Once upon a time, they bought and started renting a couple apartments, but discovered there was no good software to help them manage their properties and renters and contractors and taxes… So they built it themselves and started selling it, and they’ve built a thriving business around it.

Buildium logo

I’m a senior member of their growing frontend team, and I’m really excited that they are transitioning to the Angular framework, which is a tremendous opportunity for me. They also have a strong UX design practice, which is a real differentiator for a small product company.

In addition to the two founders, Buildium employs four other old friends from my Sapient days: one’s still a working designer, and the others each manage Buildium’s technology, design, and product management practices. And there’s at least one more old friend starting in January.

Even though it’s been about twelve years since we worked together, I was surprised by the things my old friends remembered about me. One of them recalled that I was the kind of person who absolutely didn’t want to climb to senior/leadership positions, and another fondly remembered the “Snackland” website I built (in ASP & ADO!) to help teams vote for what snacks they wanted to spend their collective money on.

Having kept in touch with some of those guys, I recognized the company name when a developer position at Buildium appeared in my RSS feed of job listings one day. I reached out to one of those buddies, and the rest was pretty straightforward.

This constituted the unlocking of one new achievement: the first time I’ve ever received a job offer without ever meeting anyone at the company face-to-face! Most of the vetting was done by phone, with one video chat for the tech test with a developer in California. In fact, I was the one who insisted on coming in to check out the office and meet a few people before accepting their offer! Very different experience.

As a company that prioritizes employee satisfaction, the benefits are refreshingly good: completely flexible PTO, the potential to work remotely, and of course I’m pretty happy to have decent health insurance again, after footing the bills for my recent medical issues. And they have not just one, but TWO foosball tables, which means I need to work on restoring the meisterly skills I had six years ago. Initial indications are positive, but considerable practice will be required! There’s also the opportunity to rewrite FRank, the foosball league ranking site I made so long ago, perhaps adding a mobile interface and speech recognition!

They’re located at the opposite end of Downtown Crossing from where I used to work at Optaros, so I know the area pretty well, and plan to revisit Lanta, the Thai place that formerly was Rock Sugar, my go-to lunch spot.

I’ll also enjoy a reprise of the walking commute I had down the statue-lined Comm Ave mall and through the Public Gardens and Boston Common. Or ride a whopping two stops on the Green Line… Definitely beats the hell out of the 40-minute commute down to Quincy that I had last year! Although I’ll miss having that nice, long bike commute, too. It’s not worth riding one mile to Buildium; it’d be as pointless as going out for a two-block jog!

On that note, there is a Buildium Strava cycling club, and their big company outing is to ride the 175-mile Cape Cod Getaway charity ride for MS each year. It goes from Boston to Provincetown, like the Outriders ride I do each year; while the MS ride takes a leisurely two days, Outriders does a shorter 130-mile route in just one day! Amusingly, it usually takes place one week before the MS Ride.

I also garnered an enviable second new achievement: coming in to work wearing jeans on my first day! Very cool! But my first day ended with something a lot less cool: when I went home and checked my postal mail, I received a note that my gall bladder surgery was scheduled for Thursday, only two days later! So at the end of my first workday, I had to ask on short notice for two days of PTO!

After taking Thursday and Friday for the operation, I returned to start my second week of work a week ago. I set up my development environment and finished my first code fix. Then Friday was the company holiday party…

I already posted to Facebook about the awkwardness of starting a new job right before the holiday party, which is an experience I’m always desperate to avoid (as related in this anecdote from my Sapient days). Fortunately, two weeks was sufficient to break the ice with some officemates—thank goodness for the non-threatening mixer value of foosball!—and so I survived our seasonal Mandatory Fun.

My third week began with the deeply exciting experience of PAYDAY!!! I also have transitioned into a new (semi-permanent) team, so that I can cover for another frontend dev who is moving away at the end of the week. That’ll provide some immediate challenges, but it’ll also be exciting to be able to really dig into the work.

So overall the new job is Really Good.

Here’s one final observation. Having always set money aside when I was working, I’ve had the flexibility to take some time between jobs to unwind and just enjoy life before jumping back into it. But this fall I looked back at my resume and was a little surprised when I added up the numbers; since 2002, when I left Sapient, I’ve taken almost seven of the past 13 years off!

And being honest, I have to say that it was a really good thing. I’ve enjoyed entire summers kayaking or cycling, and been free to travel or devote time to my meditation practice. Given how insanely stressful and frustrating and exhausting software development can be, I think those periods of relaxation have been a real lifesaver for me. I definitely think it’s nice to pull a year or two of one’s retirement forward, so that one can enjoy time off while one’s still (comparatively) young, strong, and healthy. And the break gives one time to decompress and reconnect to one’s enthusiasm for work (and money!) before going back to the daily grind.

Now my most recent little sabbatical is over, and it’s time to dive back into the melee. But at Buildium, I’m really excited by the company, the people, and the technology, so I’m planning on enjoying it quite a bit.

Apparently I’ve never related this story here. With the Santa Speedo Run making its frostbitten-hamhock trudge up Newbury Street in 16° snow flurries as I type, it might be a good time to reminisce and share this classic holiday tale.

Friday December First of 2000. I went in to work as usual at Sapient’s Cambridge office. At the time, I was one of several frontend developers embedded within a huge team working on an online stock brokerage system for JP Morgan Chase and Brown & Company.

Jerry Greenberg

That morning we had a guest in our daily team meeting: Jerry Greenberg, one of Sapient’s two founders and CEOs. He gave us the usual little pep talk and then—since the company’s holiday party was that evening— asked for a show of hands of who would be going. Just about everybody raised their hands… except Ornoth.

It will surprise no one that I dread corporate holiday parties. The period from Halloween to New Years has always been a stressful and unpleasant time for me, and I’ve never been a fan of the party scene. So I had hoped to quietly let the event pass, in hopes that no one would mark my absence.

Fat chance! Jerry’s eyes scanned the team and he muttered his pleasure at the team’s response. Then they landed directly on me and my hands, which rested uneasily at my sides. “Ornoth? You’re not coming?” O fuck.

Before we go any further, let’s add a little bit of context. By this time, I’d been with Sapient for six years, participating in four dozen projects; helping grow it from a 100-person company to over 3,000; going through its IPO; and seeing it named to the S&P 500. Of course, Jerry had known me all that time. He and Stuart had actually discussed my hiring back in 1994, since I was the first guy they hired who had long hair! So Jerry felt pretty comfortable that he knew me.

All that matters because out of that 120-person team, I had more tenure than anyone else on the project and a longer relationship with Jerry. They viewed me as the grizzled veteran of old-school Sapient. But here I was, being confronted by Jerry about not attending the holiday party!

“Well, uh… It’s really not my thing…”

That might have gotten past my peers, but not the CEO. “Naw, Ornoth. Come on…”

We went back and forth a bit, with him trying to pressure me into committing while I danced around the fact that I didn’t want to go, even if the CEO was publicly asking me to in front of all my coworkers.

Then it hit me. There was one shining, simple, graceful way out that would enable me to save face and still avoid that inane party!

Since Sapient had grown so big, they had actually issued tickets for the party. No ticket: no entry. And the deadline for requesting tickets from HR had passed the previous week! Slammida!

“But Jerry, I can’t go… I don’t have a ticket.” Jerry (and everyone else in the room) knew I was reaching, but what could he do about it?

It was then that our eyes met, and I saw the sharklike look of a salesman who had just cornered a reluctant mark. With calculated slowness, he reached into his suit pocket and pulled out… his ticket to the holiday party, then walked over and placed it in my hand. I was out of options and dumbstruck.

As he walked back to his place in the circle, he defused any tension by joking that now he might have a difficult time getting into the party himself. Everyone laughed while I surely turned beet red. He’d called my bluff and beaten me, winning the amusement of the whole team in the process. Even I admired the panache with which he’d shown me who was boss.

And there was nothing else for me but to show up at the goddamned corporate holiday party. Worst of all, there was no way I could quietly not make an appearance, because now it would be marked by more than a hundred people!

Sheesh!

It’s been nearly 25 years since I first got my hands on SLAM EXEC and started developing my own natural language insult generator. Since then I’ve expanded its vocabulary to 38,000 data items from 26 parts of speech.

Back in the early days, Xmastime wasn’t Xmastime unless it included a randomly-generated sick and twisted version of the Twelve Days of Xmas. You can see two examples from the early 1990s in this old blog post.

This year, to commemorate this very special time of year, I thought I’d create a 2010 vintage. So, without further ado, I present to you… Let’s all sing it together, now:

On the twelfth day of Xmas my true love sent to me:

Twelve laughers LOLing
Eleven cross-dressers strutting
Ten thugs a-sneering
Nine security chiefs conspiring
Eight brides a-kibitzing
Seven carps a-croaking
Six seals a-bleeding
FIVE ACRYLIC SURFBOARDS!
Four crooning mallards
Three Cylon panda bears
Two wicked absorbent donkeys
And a cockroach in a retirement resort.

Of course, my invisible army of insult elves aren’t idle for the other eleven months of the year! They’re always busily generating thousands of random sentences in hopes of producing something akin to Shakespeare’s “Hamlet”.

I used to save the “best” (or perhaps simply “most interesting”) examples for my heirs and posterity in a file called GRAND SLAMS. Back in 2004, I shared four dozen of my personal favorites in this blog post.

This is, of course, leading up to another instance of oversharing. Here, for your approval, is another batch of classic random insults, fresh out of the virtual oven. I hope you enjoy them.

  • You superfluous male son of a feminist!
  • If you don't hula, just harry He-Man.
  • You have the intelligence of burrito filling.
  • Tax Accountant Bear once bit my estate.
  • Screw you!
  • Excuse me while I go see some bum off the street perform live at Allston.
  • You look like a goddess when you act like a goddess.
  • I saw you be cooked by Abba with glamor and chivalrousness.
  • Your beloved smells like a very unusual gorilla.
  • I'm sick of your furry fur!
  • You're so problematic!
  • Go organize a Broadway show with Joe Namath.
  • Why don't you go to Hurricane Slimy and grapple yourself.
  • Don't decorate that reindeer, you art therapist!
  • I bet you'd love to be gobbled by a Playboy Bunny with a handful of breath mints.
  • If you don't move to Britain, you'll be infiltrated by Hilary Clinton.
  • Did the doctor get fixed when you were born?
  • You dress like a multiple amputee.
  • Be seduced by my spaghetti sauce spewing stegosaur.
  • You smell like the Barge Monster.
  • Why don't you just crawl off to Armageddon and loiter.
  • Ring an ambassador!
  • A bumblebee is your size, but a honeybee is more your speed.
  • Do something frugal with a bugle.
  • Go organize the manufacturing of a waffle with Egg Smeller Bear.
  • Go chew Annette Funicello's diseased femininity.
  • Why don't you just go horse around with your wildest sexual fantasies at psychoanalysis!
  • Go sit on my dog cart and pant.
  • Your betrothed with accidental poisoning by detergent or shampoo slept with Sapient Corporation at the sacrifice of the Incredible Frenching Llama from a NyQuil refinery.
  • I want to hoard your knickers.
  • Have you ever seen a panda bear act like a dominatrix?
  • You look like you incinerated Eddie Murphy's exuberant ass.
  • Someone told me that you and Princess Diana were slaughtered by a dust mite while the Stingy Hare Krishna Stud Baby Bird Dogs watched.
  • We all know that you get immunized against excessive eye-blinking regularly.
  • Your mother was a lovebird, and your father smelled of some Life cereal with Raisins!
  • You look savage.
  • I used to know a detestable fool just like you.
  • Did the doctor cringe when you were born?
  • May Carl Sagan tinker with your respirator.
  • Go organize Armageddon with Salman Rushdie.
  • If you wallow in suspense, you'll be restored by a cassette recording of a centerfold.
  • You'd put breakfast cereal in your handbag.
  • Excuse me, but your Congressman's prick is stuck in my tuba.

On the first day of Christmas teh fluffeh gave to me:
      A false sense of security.
 
On the second day of Christmas teh fluffeh gave to me:
      One smashed glass ornament in shards on the living room floor.
 
On the third day of Christmas teh fluffeh gave to me:
      Another smashed glass ornament in shards on the living room floor.
 
On the fourth day of Christmas teh fluffeh gave to me:
      One more smashed glass ornament in shards on the living room floor.
 
On the fifth day of Christmas teh fluffeh gave to me:
      One miraculously whole glass ornament wedged under the love seat.
 
On the sixth day of Christmas teh fluffeh gave to me:
      One smashed glass ornament in shards under the love seat
      and a miraculously whole glass ornament on the living room floor.
 
On the seventh day of Christmas teh fluffeh gave to me:
      Nothing, ’cos I was home to supervise the little bugger!
 
On the eighth day of Christmas teh fluffeh gave to me:
      Nothing, ’cos I was home to supervise the little bugger!
 
On the ninth day of Christmas teh fluffeh gave to me:
      Three smashed glass ornaments in shards
      and the entire Christmas tree lying on the living room floor.

The world has lost a beautiful, beautiful soul.

I guess it’s time for the promised Puggle update. You’ll recall that I took him to the vet on Wednesday the 14th for labored breathing, and he was diagnosed with congestive heart failure, with only a short time left to live.

That day, the vet drained the built-up fluid from his chest, which gave him immediate, but temporary relief. My goal was to nurse him through to January, spending some quality time with him, and put him down right after New Years.

The Puggle

On coming home, Pug did seem to be a lot more alert and active, and was able to breathe like a kitten again. The vet gave me a green light to give him “anything he’ll eat”, so I spoiled him with chicken, scrambled eggs, bacon, SciDi dry (no accounting for kitty tastes), Swiss cheese, Jax cheese curls, and saucers of milk. We spent a lot of time together, and I took a bunch of movie clips of my fuzzy buddy on my cell phone.

As Christmas got closer, I thought I could get away for a couple days with family. I planned to leave Friday noon and return Sunday afternoon, and my cat-sitting service would visit once on Saturday and once on Sunday.

On Wednesday, I noticed that Pug was starting to have difficulty breathing again. However, I thought I’d have enough time to bring him in to the vet’s after Xmas. But Thursday night he was so bad that I concluded that I’d bring him in and have him put to sleep Friday morning before I left Boston.

But when the time came, he seemed pretty good. He didn’t seem to have any difficulty breathing, and was pretty active, as well. So against my prior plans, I left for Maine, hoping Pug would be okay over the weekend.

Well, as you have no doubt surmised, he wasn’t. About 4pm on Christmas Eve, the petsitter called to tell me how he’d found him. He covered Pug with a sheet right where he lay.

After a perfunctory holiday observance, I headed home at 3pm today. His body lay there, just as beautiful as he’d been in life. I had to get through the tasks of moving him, putting him in a box, taking him down to the animal hospital to be cremated, and saying goodbye forever. On Christmas Day.

I don’t know how I could even begin to relate to you what that cat meant to me. Every day he was a source of joy, love, amusement, and warmth. He was a dear, dear friend, and one of the most central parts of my life. I shall be hard pressed to find another companion like him.

I guess I can take solace in the realization that his suffering is gone forever. But boy, has he left an immense, gaping hole in my heart.

May you be blessed with devotion and companionship as unwavering as that you gave to me, my dear friend. Namaste!

Hancock TowerToday is a very special day of the year.

I live 800 feet northwest of the tallest building in New England, the 790-foot Hancock Tower in Boston. Yes, that means that if the Hancock were to fall in exactly the right direction, it might just scrape the Vendome. Of course, as we saw with the World Trade Center, skyscrapers tend to fall straight down, rather than topple over sideways, as a more rigid structure might do.

During the winter, the sun is low enough on the horizon that my apartment falls into the Hancock’s shadow for about 20 minutes each morning. There’s also sometimes a “Prudential eclipse” in the afternoon (it’s 1600 feet west-southwest of me), but that’s less of a concern.

During the summer, however, the sun is higher, enough so that its path goes above the Hancock, so its shadow no longer quite reaches my windows.

Today is the first day of the year without a “Hancock eclipse”. After the fourth snowiest winter in 125 years, I’m really looking forward to a month of sun-days!

Do you enjoy the cold weather and snow for the holidays?
Well, I’m a high summer sort of person, really. Autumn really depresses me, because it heralds the end of the world and eight months of cold, barren, deadness. On the other hand, winter biking can be a lot of fun; it’s a good challenge, there are fewer people out, it’s more peaceful, and everyone thinks you’re insane. As for the holidays, I think I’ve already said enough about that in my recent friends-only tirade.
 
What is your ideal holiday celebration? How, where, with whom would you celebrate to make things perfect?
But no, you had to keep poking, didn’t you? Okay, then. I celebrate the solar holidays, not the secular or Xist ones. My ideal celebration, therefore, is somewhere off amidst the power and beauty of nature, far away from man. Recently I have tended to frequent a few specific spots, including Castle Island, which is a tiny outcropping in the middle of Boston Harbor, or the Arnold Arboretum’s Conifer Path, or atop Great Blue Hill.
 
Do you do have any holiday traditions?
See above.
 
Do you do anything to help the needy?
Sometimes, if a close friend has a catastrophic need, I help if I can afford to, but in general the charity that I support is the Dana-Farber Cancer Institute, through my annual Pan-Mass Challenge rides.
 
What one gift would you like...
Well, a new job is the number one goal right now. But if we’re limiting ourselves to traditional petty western materialism, two things I’ve wanted for some time are the Ciclosport 434 cyclocomputer and cadence kit, which includes altimeter and inclinometer functions; and the Garmin Etrex Vista handheld GPS, which is like my original Etrex but also includes base maps and an altimeter, as well as a number of other new functions. But the easiest thing for people to get me would be a gift certificate to www.performancebike.com, www.coloradocyclist.com, or www.nashbar.com.

Do holidays make any sense to you? They really don’t to me. One day we’re looking for rodents, the next we’re Irish, then we’re looking for egg-laying rabbits. One day we wear disguises and teach our children extortion, the next we celebrate the land’s bounty, then we give it all away to our friends, followed quickly by staying up all night and getting drunk. All this really makes sense to you?

It doesn’t to me. If you ask me, the only holidays worth sincere observation are the ten solar events of the year.

Ten? There are only two solstices and two equinoxes, no? Well, yes, but there’s more, too. Let’s have a little astronomy review, shall we? Let’s begin with what everyone already knows.

There are two equinoxes: spring (vernal) and fall (autumnal). Those are the times when the Sun passes directly over the equator, passing from the northern hemisphere to the southern, or vice versa. It’s also when day and night are roughly equal in length. They fall, respectively, around March 20 and September 23. These were important dates to the Celts, whom I’ll refer to a couple times here, and the church absorbed these observances under the names of Eostar/Ostara and Mabon, respectively.

And there are the two solstices: summer and winter. These are the longest and shortest days of the year, and the days when the Sun is as far north/south as it will get before heading back towards the equator again. However, they are not mathematically halfway between the equinoxes, usually falling on June 21 and December 22. The pagan holidays of Litha and Yule were again confiscated by the Christian/Borg authorities.

Few people realize it now, but there are also four cross-quarter days, each of which was roughly halfway between a solstice and an equinox. Who cares? Well, those nutty Celts did, because they actually observed the change of seasons with these cross-quarter days, which match up with reality much better than the solstices and equinoxes. To them, the latter were mid-season events, not the borders between seasons.

Modern-day wicco-pagans are familiar with all this, since they too celebrate these solar holidays, but they don’t quite get it right. Somehow the traditional dates for their observances that don’t synch with the astronomical reality.

For example, Imbolc (aka Solmonath, Candlemas) is the Celtic beginning of spring. It happens February 4th, which coincides (not accidentally) with Groundhog Day. But Wiccans traditionally observe it on February 1 for some reason.

Similarly, Beltane (Whitsuntide, Walpurgisnacht) is the beginning of summer. It happens on May 5, but wiccans, who seem to have a penchant for round numbers, celebrate it on the last day of April.

Lughnasadh (Lammas) heralds autumn on August 7, but wiccans think August first is close enough.

Finally, there’s Samhain (Hallowmas), the wicked wiccan new year, observed on Halloween, October 31. Never mind that the cross-quarter day is actually November 7th. Ah, those nutty wiccans, playing fast and loose with their own holy days!

That, of course, only accounts for eight of the ten solar events I mentioned. There are two more. What could they be?

Well, all the holidays I’ve mentioned so far are tied to the seasons, which means they’re an attribute of the Earth’s 23-degree axial tilt. The other two days are different; they’re a function of the elliptical nature of the Earth’s orbit around the Sun. Because it’s elliptical, there must be a point at which the Earth is closer to the Sun than any other time during the year, and a similar furthest point from the Sun. These are called Perihelion and Aphelion, respectively.

The interesting thing is that those of us in the northern hemisphere have this all backwards. The day of the Earth’s closest approach to the Sun (Perihelion) actually occurs in the middle of winter: January 4th, usually. Similarly, the Earth is at its most distant point from the Sun (Aphelion) during summer: the Fourth of July (although this is one case where the modern holiday wasn’t lifted from the solar calendar). If we were in the southern hemisphere, this arrangement might seem more intuitive to people.

That gives us ten solar holidays, which make a great deal more sense to me than our contrived celebrations, for they observe the changes in our days and our seasons, which affect every living thing on our planet. At my last job we were given “floating holidays”, which I used on these solar holidays to celebrate the seasons. I found that much more satisfactory than taking a completely arbitrary day off to celebrate “the strength and esprit de corps of the trade and labor organizations” in 19th century New York City.

Yes, I’m early this week. I’m that good.

Those of you who pick up the Friday Five from my page might want to know that there’s an official Web site at http://fridayfive.org/, and there’s an RSS feed at [livejournal.com profile] fridayfive_feed that you can put on your friends page.

What was your first Halloween costume?
The first one I remember was a skeleton. Ha ha, look at the skinny kid in the skeleton costume.
 
What was your best costume and why?
Well, that’d have to be my SCA getup. As a member of the Verminssun clan of the barbaric Veassllurds, I got to prance around in nothing but a loincloth. The front half, including the fox’s head, covered my crotch, and the back half, including his bushy red tail, covered my backside. I got a lot of looks and many comments in that one.
 
Did you ever play a trick on someone who didn't give you a treat?
On Halloween? I doubt it.
 
Do you have any Halloween traditions? (ie: Family pumpkin carving, special dinner before trick or treating, etc.)
Really, no. Halloween, the Samhain cross-quarter day, my birthday, and the end of daylight savings—all depressing events—all come within a few days, and it always marks the beginning of the worst time of year for me. So generally I try to ignore it all and hang onto the last vestiges of summer’s happiness as long as I possibly can.
 
Share your favorite scary story...real or legend!
I’m really not a fan of gothic or horror type stuff, although I do have a few classics to point out that might be worth investigating. Clarke Ashton Smith and Lord Dunsany are both very good. Lots of people will mention Poe, but I particularly enjoyed one of his more obscure stories, the “Narrative of A. Gordon Pym”. Similarly, I think people will mention Bram Stoker’s “Dracula”, yet be completely ignorant of his most excellent “The Jewel of Seven Stars”. Many folks will no doubt mention Lovecraft, but frankly once I was familiar with his style I found him awfully predictable and formulaic.

Were you raised in a particular religious faith?
No.
 
Do you still practice that faith? Why or why not?
No.
 
What do you think happens after death?
From my February 24th LJ entry "Philosophy for Dummies":
When we die, like any animal, we die. There is no essense or spirit which survives when our brain activity ceases. Because death is an inevitable end of our being, and because we never live to experience it, it is illogical to fear death. On the other hand, it certainly is logical to fear suffering and pain, if those are part of your road to death. But death itself should be accepted as the ultimate, immutable fact of life. Accept it and move on and enjoy your life, motivated further by the knowledge that your portion of life is finite.
I firmly agree with the Existential creed that there is no meaning to life other than to experience it, and believe that is an incredibly empowering, liberating, and optimistic realization.
 
What is your favorite religious ritual (participating in or just observing)?
Although I do not believe in religion as such, I feel that it is eminently logical to observe the solstices, equinoxes, and cross-quarter days, although not in any self-impressed wiccan sense. On those days I try to reconnect with nature and quietly celebrate the beauty and wonder of nature and life.
 
One tidbit: did you know that the change of seasons actually used to be observed on the cross-quarter days, rather than the solstices and equinoxes (they were thought of as the midpoints of seasons)? I find that a much more logical arrangement.
 
And happy Samhain everyone (even if few people realize that the cross-quarter day actually falls on November 7th).
 
Do you believe people are basically good?
I believe people have a strong trend toward laziness, ignorance, selfishness, and fear . As a moral relativist and secular humanist, I do not believe in the ideas of objective "good" and "evil" as such. The only "good" is acting in conformance with your own unique set of morals and values.

Well, hasn't this been an interesting month? Unfortunately, you haven't heard much about it, because I don't tend to go on about day-to-day stuff, and the stuff that was significant required the approval of a bunch of people to share, so I just bagged it. It's too bad, because some of it was truly amazing, but those emotions are gone now.

It all started out amazingly well. First I got to see my favorite reggae band, Culture, with my buddy Atticus. Then I made a weekend trip to Detroit to stay at a B&B on the shores of Lake Huron with four very close friends. The intensity and intimacy of the connections we forged were absolutely humbling. I would have written a great deal about this amazing experience, but I felt limited by my friends' privacy concerns. Let's just say that it was pretty mind-blowing.

Even through the middle of the month, things were pretty damned good. Inna and I took a two-day foliage trip through the Berkshires that was really marvelous. And the very next day I got to meet one of my magazine's newer writers for the first time, which is always a treasured experience. We got along pretty well and had a good time together.

But the nights got longer and colder and we had our first light snow squall, and things really seem to go to hell. The intense connection I shared with my friends in Detroit completely soured when I discovered one of them lying to me. From there, things rapidly spun out of control, until the whole group is now making completely baseless accusations about me, telling me what I think and feel about them. And their little fantasies are complete fabrications of their paranoid insecurities. While I think it'll blow over, it's causing me endless frustration and anger, which are emotions I usually have no difficulty controlling, but not so right now.

At the exact same time, I developed a large fluid swelling in my right knee that was diagnosed as pre-patellar bursitis. While it's not an immense inconvenience, it does limit how much walking I can do, and prohibits me from doing any cycling at all. Now, two weeks later, the symptoms haven't changed at all – if anything they've gotten worse – and I find that, too, frustrating.

Today was, of course, also my 39th birthday. Happy birthday, indeed! Between having class in the evening and the limitations my bursitis places on my mobility, I wasn't able to do anything special. That, of course, left me free to dwell on my close friends' betrayals and our ongoing disputes.

And my usual end-of-year angst plays into all of this. The holidays are always the most painful, difficult time of year for me, mostly due to the obligations of family, friends, work, and school. And having a Halloween birthday, this is the official start of the holidays for me. I'm feeling pressured by my obligation to go to Maine to visit my mother, and I have just two weeks to do all four of my projects for my Quark class. As Inna has helped me see, I have a very dysfunctional relationship with "obligation", so the holidays and end of semesters really stress me out.

But I guess it's not all bad. I turned in a pretty good art project tonight (which only one other student out of ten completed), and I cracked open my Craggymore 12, which will soon be followed by a CCIC chaser. Party on. <shrug>

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