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[ornoth]

Wow… If you wanna get your LJ noticed, say something disparaging about love! I don’t think I’ve ever had that many responses to anything I’ve posted!

Two people agreed with my statement “Having loved once is once too many”. One person inquired what was up (in the form of a single questionmark). Four people felt the need to tell me that I was wrong, and one person posted a related quotation.

A couple general comments back…

First, it was an expression of emotion. Emotions aren’t right or wrong, nor do they reflect permanent truths. If I’d posted saying “I hate my mother!!!”, you’d probably take that as a temporary emotional outburst, rather than an expression of my deepest truth. No difference. It was one of those things that happens in the middle of the night. And honestly, Carlo’s song quote was absolutely spot-on: “What do I get to keep? A name, a face, a memory that burns in my sleep”. Specifically, at 2:13am last Tuesday.

Second, as one of those midnight moments of melancholy, it had its own poetry to it, at least in my head. It wanted to be said, shared. Part of my journaling is to record and share the depth of feeling I have, because I’m so horribly bad about revealing it in the moment. In the past I’ve written about my feelings about particular people, or about nature, or life in general; this was one attempt to capture a passing moment of melancholy. It’s no more fixed and permanent than anything else in this brief life.

I will say it surprised me how many people interpreted that statement as an integral part of my beliefs. It’s not; in fact, it’s pretty atypical. Maybe that’s why it needed to be expressed in that moment; I dunno. But it seems odd to me that people treated it as if I were making an assertion about Universal Truth, rather than just sharing another passing feeling, another moment of my all-too-humanity.

But that’s enough said. You don’t have to worry about me or my outlook on love. The ups and downs are part of the ride, and I was just sharing one particularly poignant moment. As they say, all such states arise and pass away, and wisdom is in recognizing that fact and maintaining one’s equanimity amidst the storm.

Comments

[lothie.livejournal.com]

Uh...I didn't say you were wrong...I just said I didn't agree with you. You're right; emotions (like opinions) are never wrong.

[ailsaek.livejournal.com]

Er, sorry. I guess I just took that a little personally, both for my own sake and for Puggy.

[ornoth.livejournal.com]

Naw, naw, no biggie. In a circuituous way, I'm flattened that my view on relationships matters to you. I'm very glad you've been part of my life, and there's a whole lot of residual fondness from our relationships, tempered with a bit of regret.

But yeah, it (my posting) was just kinda one of those pasisng things. I knew it at the time, but I wanted to capture it; for some reason it seemed important at the time. But it's certainly not a frequent or typical thought. It's just minor key harmonics.

And certainly no apology is necessary. Though I appreciate your taking the time to write the note.